Tuesday, January 8, 2013

2013 Matters

     Rory over at "Time Out For Mom" gave us this prompt for the first Coffee Chat of the new year.

In the coming year, I would like to....."
Complete the above statement as you will.

Sounds easy enough, this'll be a cake walk. I can write this with my eyes closed. Then I got thinking.
    Some things are easy, continue to work on being more fit. Stress less, enjoy life more. Fix up the new house. Explore the new 'hood. That kind of thing. Pretty standard stuff.
     The truth of the matter is, I would really like to take a break. From everything. I'd like some time to digest the chaos of last year. Time to think about all the things I've learned and how I'll move forward. So rather than complete the prompt, I'm going to share some of the things I learned last  year. Maybe I'll have an answer by the end.
     Set your own course. You always have choices even if it doesn't feel like it at the time. Don't let anyone or anything rob you of your voice. We are usually smarter and stronger than we give ourselves credit for. My biggest mistakes were when I forgot that and allowed other people or situations to make my decisions for me. That little voice inside, I should have paid better attention.
     Take advantage of every opportunity to be happy, to laugh, dance, sing. Whatever lifts your spirits. It's far too easy to get overwhelmed with what life throws your way. If you're miserable, life seems that way too.
     In the same vein, time really is precious. There are no guarantees. Nothing drives that home quite like finding out you may not have all those tomorrows with the one you love. Make the most of what you have, every day.
    Be fearless. I was surprised how many people reacted with. "I'd never do that, I might get hurt" when I was regaling them with my exploits trying to learn to snowboard. And yes my learning curve was quite shallow. But I had a blast. Don't let fear of failure or getting hurt hold you back. Nothing is worse than regret.
     Just say no. No, this is unacceptable. No, I don't like this. No, I don't have time. We aren't mind readers. If you don't say anything, nothing changes. Saying yes to everything doesn't make you the good guy, it makes you a doormat.
     I guess in the coming year, I would like to ... be whatever I can be. The possibilities just might be endless.


  1. endless possibilities - love, love that. I think that is some good advice for us all to take forward into 2013.
    I would love to learn to snowboard! Left Brain wants to get the whole family skiing now, but of course...$$$$$. That's about the only thing that holds us back.
    Here's to a year of being all that we can be!

  2. Love that last sentence. It's kind of how I feel about the coming year. Even though it's a little late I want to wish you all the best for this year!!!


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